What is it about love & relationships that make us go crazy? And what is it that makes us push it away? We're driven by loads of things... fear, love, desire, lack of connection. But, if not taken care of properly, it's easy to distort what love in its purest form is and what kind of "love" you accept. I know from experience what it's like to think you're in love and I also know what it's like to love somebody. Note the difference between what I just said and you'll realize I've never actually fallen in love. I've simply just learned what it means to love somebody. But, I still haven't quite mastered letting somebody love me back just yet. Which leads me to the title, "Love & Other Drugs". At first glance, you think, isn't that just some movie with the ever-so-handsome Jake Gyllenhaal in it? While you'd still be correct... I named this post that to represent the hang-ups from our past that can come when love enters our lives. These "hang-ups" are like drugs to us that are hard to quit, deeply ingrained into the very fibers of our beings. Maybe somebody hurt you? Maybe you hurt somebody? Or maybe you've never been properly loved before so you went out seeking and settling for other forms of "love" because you don't feel that you deserve more. Of course these are the webs we love to tangle ourselves in. My question is, why do we do that? If you're like me.. all you do is crave love. I'd be a liar if I said I didn't think about love everyday of my life. I stand up and then I stumble over my own two feet, labeling myself as independent when really I'm just very fragile in need of support. I'm guilty of letting the wrong guys have my attention and then not being strong enough to tell the guys that should have my attention how I really feel. I'm guarded and I am just ever so particular about who I let in my circle and how close I let them get. This is a problem. I'm tired of being addicted to the drug that is loneliness, lies, and low self-esteem. I'm tired of accepting less than desirable forms of "love." I'm tired of seeing my friends allow themselves to consequently waste their time with boys instead of men. We all deserve more, ... better. I want to know, how is it that we can cheapen love? I don't care whether you are a girl or a guy, infidelity is not gender specific. I wan't to know what is it about love that terrifies us, stops us in our tracks. It's like once things get real, we realize we actually have to make a choice to do better and change. We're scared. Fear, yet another drug. So what do we do to stop it? The hook-ups, the love's lost, the cheating. For me, it starts with my relationship with God. Romans 12:9-13 says "Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord. Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer." However, while faith may not be everyone's first stop. There are loads of things that we can do to help solve this problem. To name a few, we can start by knowing our self-worth and respecting ourselves. And next up, is being intentional about our relationships. Love is hard though. It's a choice and it can take years before we learn how to love ourselves and others. But, that's the cool thing about love.. it's patient, it's kind, and it's infectious! Once we let it in, it festers and keeps growing. Only when we let love grow, can we grow ourselves. Let love make you feel like a Hunter Hayes song. I'm totally with him when he says "I don't want easy, I want crazy!" I suppose in a round-about way, I'm saying we need to look forward to more than just creating our own collection of albums that looks as though they easily could've been penned by Taylor Swift herself. Love drives us crazy because we need it, it's how we were created and as of lately it's what the world needs a lot of. Please know that you're worthy or being loved and you don't have to settle anymore. Don't be discouraged just because odds aren't in your favor right now, for all you know, things could actually be falling into place! I don't know about you, but this year is my year to let go and start learning how to let love in. So what are still doing here reading this blog, go out and get your dream! xx Lisa
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